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Winter is not a period for sex!
By Vincent Morifi
It is the middle of winter times and it is the time where lots of things happen. People use wood fire to keep themselves warm others uses others to, also keep themselves warm.
This is a very vague and non-understandable statement. But believe in me this is true. Winter time is when people die because of fire and many engage themselves in sexual intercourse and give birth because they keep each other’s warm. This is where problems occur.
Teenagers of these days are used to the idea that in winter they should sleep together, (boy and girl) in order to keep each other warm. It is surprising to see that many teenage boys says that it is a must to sleep with a girl during winter in order to avoid the coldness, but if we can forward our mind back in the days, we can recall that it was considered a taboo for a boy and a girl to sleep together and have sex.
The most irritating thing is that even those days winter period was there, but our elders were not complaining that they should sleep together, (boy and a girl). These days things are different and totally different. I have come into realization that in winter is when many teenagers bare children, and the more high rate of birth, the more high rate of death. The use of condom is ignored during winter, and the government always speaks aloud that condom must be always used, but it seems like the message get in the other eye and out in the other.
It is time that teenagers talk with each other about this issue, explained to each other that if you are a boy it is not compulsory or the matter of a must to sleep with a girl during winter and throw away a condom. In order to keep the rate of death low, teenagers, you must all avoid sex during winter and use condom at all times. Play safe and don’t let winter pass with you.
Understanding Gays and Lesbians at UL S'camto
By Madimetja Mashishi
I am very sure this is my last column of this kind, unless otherwise forced by circumstances. Just this past Wednesday (14th May), the seniorjournalism.com crew decided to attend the S’camto Talk Show at the University of Limpopo’s Turfloop campus. I had personally attended the show on several occasions in my first year, and boy did we discuss very nice topics.
The topics were so nice that one of my colleagues, Makoena Makgakga, never missed a single show since coming on campus! And as for me, well I had more on my plate- so I had to prioritise. This week they discussed a topic we have touched for several times: Gays and Lesbians. And trust me, it was so nice you should feel pity yourself. Just kidding! Please don’t cry, because I got you covered.
Here it goes:
- According to the guests who were on the ‘spotlight’ at that particular show- who are “proudly gay” themselves- being gay is a something that comes naturally. They believe it is “here to stay,” as they put it. But they also note that not all people who are claiming to be gay are ‘naturals’, they insist that some people just do it for the h*ll of it, others for the fame, while others are just experimenting.
- One of the gay “socialites” at the show, Kamogelo, said that he discovered he was gay from what he called: the get go! He insists that he knew he was gay from a tender age and says that he has also dated girls, but denies ever having sex with them. Allegedly gay people do not get high when they are with the opposite sex- I hope you all grasp me when I say they “… do not get high…” well, for those who do not get me I mean gay people or homosexuals do not develop sexual feelings when they are with people from their opposite sex.
- Another homosexual at the talk show, Masindi, says she discovered she was lesbian while she was growing up, - you should have seen her, I almost said to her: “What’s up bro?”- Masindi says people from were she grow up (somewhere in Tshwane) understood her sexuality very well, and did not make nasty statements about her sexuality, unlike here in Limpopo where she is currently studying. The female says that when she first came here in 2007 people did not understand her, and posed questions about her way of dress, the way she walk, etc.
- What we all learnt at the show is that: “there are three kinds of gays,” as Kamogelo puts it. He classifies them as follows:
*Bottom gays: which he says are “female” gays. They want boyfriends, and they act the part of the girlfriend in a relationship.
*Top gays: they are gays who are male and play the part of boyfriend in the relationship.
*Versatile gays: These are gays, according to Kamogelo, who are both “female” and male. They can play either the part of boyfriend or girlfriend in the union.
- Well, here is something we also learnt from Masindi: there are different types of lesbians some wear male attire, and there are others whom one would not recognise by the eye, they wear, walk, talk, and behave just as females do.
- A member of the audience, whom I suspect is a psychology student, gave us another lesson: in psychology there are different types of gays, she notes:
· Biological gays: are gays/ lesbians who are born with this sexuality, because they got more hormones of a different gender to theirs.
· Psychological gays: who she tells us are gays/ lesbians because of psychological reasons.
There is a third type of gays which I did not grasp very well, but it is one that is created out of the desires of the particular person and not circumstances over his/ her control.
Gays, Lesbians, & Religion
This one is a burning issue. Well there was quite a clear confusion on whether God approves of gays or not. One Christian lady, I think her name was Violet, stood-up and gave us a sermon on what the Christian Bible says about Christianity, in short: gayism is against the Bible, and gays were not created as gays but gays are formed. But my homosexual brothers and sisters were quick to defend themselves saying that God created us all and he loves us all. According to Kamogelo if God did not love him could he have “removed me (him) long ago”.
And those who believe in the African culture and religion said it was against morality, they asked the house to imagine what would happen to the society if all people were gay. There would be no kids and the human race would be extinguished.
My take on this issue:
I believe gays and lesbians are natural beings and should be treated as equals by all the other straight people. After listening deeply to the lesbians and gays pour their hearts out I now believe that I would not discriminate against anyone because of their sexuality.
What makes me believe that gays are naturals and being gay is a natural thing is a statement made by Kamogelo that gays/ lesbians do not get high when they are with their opposite sex, but get to the extremes when they are with someone from their sex.
As to the religion part of the issue I think we as people who claim to be “straight” should not judge against gays because it is said in the Holy Scriptures that: “thou shall not judge”, only God is the judge. And we must also bear in mind (me & my fellow Christians, Africans and so forth) that not everyone on earth is a Christian.
Lord of mercy be with you all.
So being gay really is not bad at all, you think.
On our previous poll we asked if you thought being gay was bad or not, and the results:
We asked you to choose one from five answers, our question was: " Is Homosexuality Good?" and the five options: "Good, but I will not do it!" ; "Very Bad, You must be out of your mind to be gay!" ; "It is normal!" ; "It is against my beliefs!" ; "Stupid Question!"
Many of you seem to be siding with this writer-cum-editor, I once said in an an article that I thought many regard gayism as something they rather not tread because of their beliefs, and some 73.08 % (that is 1023) of the polled 1388 visitors says "it is against our beliefs" to be gay. This is the majority answer, followed by those who thought it is "Good (to be gay) but I will not do it!" with a fair 14.38 %(201 votes) , whom are followed by those who polled "it is normal" to be gay with 11.54 % ( about 164) votes. While NON of you thought the question was either stupid or one would be out of their minds to be gay.
Thank you for voting on our previous poll. Watch out for our next poll.
Americans also to get tax rebates
The American president, George W. Bush, announced today(Thursday) that refunds will be paid to tax-payers. He seems to be on the same page with South Africa's Finance Minister Trevor Manuel since Trevor has also stated in his annual National Budget Speech that tax-payers will be getting tax-rebates, and companies will be getting tax incentives in the new financial year, which Bush also reportedly mentioned. This is good news to both South African and American tax-paying citizens. Use the tax rebates wisely! To read the Bush report click here.
And for the Manuel budget speech click here
Community Media Taken For Granted
Gay or NOT!
I have always wondered how homosexuals feel and how they relate to their “fairer half” since they are from the same sex. I have always asked myself whether “homos” or what people usually call gays or, maybe, lesbians did refer to their partners as “my fearer sex” or something like “mother to my future kids” like we, straight people, do. And quite honestly I did not have an elucidation one could dub as an “exact” answer to my questions.
That was until on one good day I visited a friend, and well a “she” friend. On my arrival I started acting Mr. Curious- it always helps to be curious for us journalists (you will pardon me for designating myself that, as I have not graduated yet) because you MIGHT find something to write about from the answers to the questions you ask yourself, or others, about the humanity and your contiguous environment.
Well, back to my friend and the homos. I asked her one “simple” question and she answered. I think it was something about affection and relationships. And well we ended-up in what one could call a “thorny” situation concerning her sexuality- of course. That is since we were talking about boys and girls, well, and love and relationships et cetera. So, my friend admitted that she did not feel comfortable with boys- even her boyfriend. But I asked myself why then is she so nice and calm with me given the fact that I am a BOY, or is it a MAN. That is not the point, but the point is that I belong to the sex, or gender, she does not feel comfortable with and I do not see any signs of discomfort in her- in fact she is in her most comfortable state. So I thought to myself “she is lying”, but trust me she was not. In fact what she finds tormenting is “kissing a boy” which she claims she has done only once since she started dating circa 2003.
Well I asked her what she thought of a kiss with another girl and she said she would “rather kiss a girl than deal with a boy” so I concluded that she is lesbian, and she denied that, but I am not convinced! I think it is because she is Christian and according to the Christian belief, I am told, homosexuality is unacceptable.
What do you think? Do you think you are, or you know someone who is in a similar situation?
Post your threads at the bottom of this page
I have always wondered how homosexuals feel and how they relate to their “fairer half” since they are from the same sex. I have always asked myself whether “homos” or what people usually call gays or, maybe, lesbians did refer to their partners as “my fearer sex” or something like “mother to my future kids” like we, straight people, do. And quite honestly I did not have an elucidation one could dub as an “exact” answer to my questions.
That was until on one good day I visited a friend, and well a “she” friend. On my arrival I started acting Mr. Curious- it always helps to be curious for us journalists (you will pardon me for designating myself that, as I have not graduated yet) because you MIGHT find something to write about from the answers to the questions you ask yourself, or others, about the humanity and your contiguous environment.
Well, back to my friend and the homos. I asked her one “simple” question and she answered. I think it was something about affection and relationships. And well we ended-up in what one could call a “thorny” situation concerning her sexuality- of course. That is since we were talking about boys and girls, well, and love and relationships et cetera. So, my friend admitted that she did not feel comfortable with boys- even her boyfriend. But I asked myself why then is she so nice and calm with me given the fact that I am a BOY, or is it a MAN. That is not the point, but the point is that I belong to the sex, or gender, she does not feel comfortable with and I do not see any signs of discomfort in her- in fact she is in her most comfortable state. So I thought to myself “she is lying”, but trust me she was not. In fact what she finds tormenting is “kissing a boy” which she claims she has done only once since she started dating circa 2003.
Well I asked her what she thought of a kiss with another girl and she said she would “rather kiss a girl than deal with a boy” so I concluded that she is lesbian, and she denied that, but I am not convinced! I think it is because she is Christian and according to the Christian belief, I am told, homosexuality is unacceptable.
What do you think? Do you think you are, or you know someone who is in a similar situation?
Post your threads at the bottom of this page
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